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“What’s that, you say? Please send you my six volumes of unpublished gothic poetry? I’d be delighted!”

To the unpublished writer — and maybe there’s another level here we’ll call underpublished — life on the other side of the divide can seem like a place of rarefied air.

This can lead to some erroneous assumptions, including about what writers farther down the path can actually do for someone still at the trailhead.

I doubt I know a single veteran writer who didn’t, at some early point, reach out to touch some of that mojo and see if a little might rub off. I certainly did. Most accomplished writers, I’m convinced, won’t hesitate to give others the benefit of their experience, when asked.

But if your expectations are unrealistic, or based on erroneous assumptions, this will, at best, lead to a fruitless exchange. At worst, it could completely undermine what might have been a valuable association.

Myth 1: Publishing is a tight-knit cabal intent on keeping you out.

Some people apparently believe that the publishing world is structured like a coalition of country clubs where everybody with a byline periodically gets together to compare elbow patches on their tweed jackets, then circle the wagons and blackball everyone else.

This can, perversely, be more comforting than this unappealing diagnosis: that if you’re not making any headway, maybe it’s because your stuff isn’t ready for prime time. Yet.

Another possibility: You know how you’re always hearing about people losing out on job opportunities because prospective employers know how to use the Internet too? And can see what these people are really like? Editors, along with everyone else, are more likely to shy away from someone whose online conduct makes him look like a paranoid sociopath with rage issues.

You only have a certain amount of time and energy. Devoting them to conspiracy theories may mean you’ll never lack for company … although it will never advance your cause.

Myth 2: Authors are eager to read the unpublished, unsolicited work of strangers and will drop everything to get right on it.

They’re not. Sorry.

Most of us already have reading lists that would take 3 lifetimes to get through even if all we were was a head in a jar, with one finger on the outside for turning pages.

Another reason? Fear of accusations of plagiarism. We live in a litigation-happy world where anyone can sue anyone else for anything. Including “stealing my ideas.” If this is a factor in a writer’s refusal to read your work, it’s no reflection on you. It’s simply a policy in place to deny that one buzzing human mosquito out there an entry point to sink his proboscis. It’s easier to fend off a potential accusation by establishing a clear precedent of not reading unpublished works, period.

Now, why ask a stranger or distant acquaintance to read something in the first place? Ah, now we’re getting to the heart of it…

Myth 3: It materially matters whether a writer tells you if something is any good or not.

We all need validation. We all want to know, early on, whether we might actually have something going, or if we’re just deluding ourselves and wasting our time.

Except, in my experience — and I bet I’m far from alone in this — the person who’s asking for an honest reaction is really prepared to hear only one answer.

Yet even if they get an appraisal that raises their hackles, so what? It’s just one person’s opinion at one point in time. And one person’s opinion, in a vacuum, doesn’t mean much.

It’s just a verdict. This isn’t what a hopeful writer really needs. In truth, if it’s so early an effort that the writer can’t even tell whether it’s any good or not, then the odds are that it’s not publishable. As is. But could be, with more work.

What a hopeful writer really needs here is detailed feedback, possibly on an ongoing basis. This isn’t something that a working author is in a position to provide on demand. It’s time-consuming and takes a lot of focus. Most working writers are too focused on their own work to act as an unpaid editorial advisor to anyone who asks.

The alternative? Classes. Workshops. Reading and critiquing groups. None of which, thanks to the Internet, have to be based close to home. These may not provide the immediate encouragement or ego boost of having the writer give some piece of work a thumbs-up, but in the long run, they’ll do the writer more good, by providing actionable feedback.

Myth 4: Published authors can hook you up, no sweat.

“I just need a publisher,” someone once told me.

As if I could tell this querent right where to go, and done deal.

Contrary to popular belief, authors aren’t plugged into the system in any broad sense. Their connections are often limited to a relatively tiny sphere of active participants in current projects. They don’t necessarily know, or even need to know, who’s reading for what, who’s buying, who may be a likely candidate for a particular manuscript. This is what agents are for.

Oh, okay, I just need an agent, then. Could you…

Not so fast. Working relationships like these are valued, and virtually all working writers are sensitive to how insanely busy editors and agents are. And are reluctant to add to their workload with continued referrals. To expect otherwise is to put the writer in an awkward position.

I can count on one finger the times that I’ve actively interceded, sending a novel to a likely-to-be-receptive editor. But in this instance, the writer had been a friend for years, and someone whose work I’d admired for even longer, who’d published numerous pieces of short fiction, and had a lot of people anticipating what she would do for a first novel.

At most, I expedited what was already destined to happen as a result of her own hard work.

These things do happen, certainly, but when they do, they’re more likely to happen because a friendship or association developed naturally, without expectations. And because they were earned through years of sweat equity.

Myth 5: Published writers don’t care about anyone else and are only out for themselves.

Which is sometimes the conclusion after all else fails.

Again: Most writers, I’m convinced, are willing to give others advice and the benefit of their experience. They want to see others do well. They want to see hard work rewarded and new talent flourish.

But, realistically, they can do only so much. Their time is short and their influence limited.

Ironically, the people I’ve felt most compelled to assist, in whatever small way I could, were the ones who asked for the least.

These are the ones who seemed to understand — by their actions, and not just lip service — that one’s time is a valuable resource.

That the hard work and legwork were up to them, and nobody else could do it for them.

In short, these were the ones who had already mastered the art of professional conduct, regardless of how many times their bylines had seen print.

They got it, and this was obvious in how they presented themselves.

In my experience — and I bet I’m far from alone in this, too — there are 3 kinds of people who ask for advice:

(1) Those you never hear from again, because what you’ve told them sounds too much like more work.

(2) Those you don’t hear from again right away, because they’re too busy acting on the advice they’ve received.

(3) Those you do hear from again right away, because you must’ve been holding back before, and there really is more you can do for them, if they’re just pushy enough.

Two out of three ain’t bad.

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Really, it doesn't have to come to this.

Writers have a reputation of being notoriously difficult to live with.

Pretty much all creative types, but writers seem to get it the worst.

You doubt? Two words: The Shining.

It’s that need for solitude, both physical and mental. All that time spent cooped up in a room, looking at a screen or a sheet of paper. All that time with our minds light-years away from our bodies. Even when we’re there, we’re not always really there there.

This can take its toll on a relationship. The writer who wants to maintain happy co-existence with a significant other has a balancing act to work out. You both do. But it’s mostly on your head. Not all, but most. Call it 60/40. Because you’re the one who gives the appearance of withdrawing, just by the nature of what you do.

It Made Me Ache To Even Read This…

Recently, in the Comments section:

“My wife just accused me of wanting to be a writer more than a husband. It’s an awful thing to have to choose between, isn’t it?”

It is, yes. Or would be, if that’s what it really has come down to. I don’t believe it has to be a choice, unless someone’s issuing an actual ultimatum … and if that’s the case, it’s another issue entirely. What to do when a partner refuses to accept what is intrinsically important to you is beyond the scope of this piece.

This is about finding a way to make it work. About finding the balance.

In my own life with my mate, Doli, it works because we give each other the space we need to grow and keep being the person the other loves.

But that hasn’t come without conscious effort, and going through bumps, and resolving issues, and doing some recalibrating, particularly in myself and my ways of being.

Which Is Mightier: The Pen, Or Cupid’s Arrow?

The last thing I want is for this to come off like trying to tell anyone how to live, or how to conduct their relationships. Mostly I’m trying to identify some of the key wedge issues that come up. How you sort them out is up to you.

For The Writers

It’s not all about you. Your partner is just that: a partner. Not staff. Like anyone doing anything that takes a long, challenging time, you need emotional support, encouragement, understanding, appreciation. But that’s not a one-way valve. Your partner needs these same things from you. Which you undoubtedly know, in your head. But may still find it easy to postpone, from your heart.

Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. This was my single greatest failing, early on. I just expected Doli to know. Know what, exactly? Everything, pretty much: When I was in active work mode. When I was in passive work mode. When the psych-up process demanded most of my mental energy. When the aftermath left me too depleted for any kind of emotional engagement.

My thinking went like this: She’s seen it before, she’s seen the symptoms, doesn’t she recognize them by now?

Whether she did or didn’t was immaterial.

She still needed to hear it from me. Just so there would be no doubt. She could deal with pretty much anything, as long as she had a clear idea of where I was, and didn’t have to guess.

All it took was communication. For me to say, in effect, “I’m in this place right now,” or “I need some space to tackle this,” or “I love you, but am so utterly wiped that I just can’t focus.”

This wasn’t easy for me. I didn’t grow up with a good example of it. Breaking the silence was something I had to learn, but for the sake of our relationship making the effort was vital.

There’s this and there’s that. “Be here now,” goes the old Buddhist tenet on mindfulness and being in the present moment. Western productivity paradigms advocate the same thing, just in different words. The gist of it is this: When you’re working, be fully present in your work; when you’re in your home life, be fully present in your home life. You have to find a way to leave your role as writer at the desk, and fully inhabit your role as partner.

A certain amount of carryover is inevitable. Things will linger. Characters will nag. But while imagination is a beautiful thing, a life spent predominantly in an imaginary world is no substitute for living truly, madly, and deeply with the fellow inhabitants of your everyday 3-D world.

Besides, you don’t have to actively think about your work to put your mind on it. Your subconscious is happy to shuffle things around while your conscious focus is elsewhere, then bring you the results when you’re receptive. Which is why so many eureka moments happen in the shower.

For Those Who Love Them

It’s nothing personal. Have you ever seen pro athletes interviewed immediately after a game, and they can barely string together a coherent sentence? Or they just loop, repeating the same thing? They’re not stupid. Their brains literally haven’t made the transition yet. Their minds on still on the field, on the court.

Writers in work mode can be like this. Sometimes we genuinely may not hear you. Or if we do, we may not be capable of processing what you’ve just said. We may scarcely even see you, or register the fact that we have. We’re not being rude or dismissive or dense. We’re just still on the field.

Working doesn’t always look like work. Writing isn’t always about pounding keys. Sometimes writing means lying on our back staring into space. Sometimes it means doodling on a piece of paper. Or going for a walk, alone. Or an infinity of other forms. It may even look like playing an Xbox 360, although I wouldn’t stake my life on that.

So please don’t think we’re wasting time even though outward appearances may not look productive.

Back to The Shining, in which Jack Nicholson laid it out in unequivocal terms:

“When you come in here and interrupt me, you’re breaking my concentration. You’re distracting me. And it will then take me time to get back to where I was … When you come in here and you hear me typing—” tap tap tap “—or whether you don’t hear me typing, or whatever you hear me doing, it means that I’m working.”

And please don’t take what looks like downtime as an all-clear to engage. It just escalates to the axe-through-the-bathroom-door stage, and nobody wants that.

Your writer isn’t a mind-reader either. I said earlier that I had to learn to communicate better…? So did Doli. Not that this was ordinarily a problem. She’s a champ at communicating. But there was a time, when I’d be in Sustained Heavy Work Mode, that she’d keep one thing and another to herself, so as not to bother me.

But little things, squashed down long enough, tend to turn into big things. And when they blow, they blow with pressure.

Eventually we learned to meet each other halfway with this communication stuff.

So. If you, our partners, are feeling lonely, left out, ignored, or that you miss us … tell us. Tell us sooner rather than later. Tell us before it turns into a Big Deal. Tell us before it becomes an accusation.

And, um, try to pick a good time, if you can. When we’re in the middle of working? Not a good time. Remember, your objective is to get through to us. Not to try to interview us while we’re still on the field.

How Others Have Managed It

Normally, Warrior Poet comes solely from my own perspective. This time, though, it felt important to expand beyond that a bit, and bring in other points of view.

I contacted a few people who are friends, acquaintances, or colleagues, and asked them to chime in with whatever seemed particularly relevant. Their backgrounds are all different, but their aims are the same: harmonizing their work within a shared home life. This could mean establishing clear priorities, resolving issues, or finding a partner who’s wired the same way.

A couple others are still to be heard from. If they come in late, I’ll add them when they do.

Barb Hendee. “I’m in a somewhat unique situation where my partner of twenty-seven years is also a writer — and we collaborate on a series — though this wasn’t always the case. He and I went to college together. We raised a daughter. We’ve been busy having a life. But throughout our adult lives together, I’ve always put the needs and feelings of J.C. and our daughter before the writing. I think that is the key. Of course having time to oneself and the writing are incredibly important, but our partners and our children have to come first. Always.”

Mark Alan Gunnells. “I found it almost impossible to write with him in the house because despite saying he understood how important it was to me, when I was writing he didn’t seem to consider that I was ‘doing anything’ and would interrupt me endlessly. He seemed to be annoyed at how much time I spent online trying to promote the books, talking to my publishers, doing interviews, that sort of thing … The way I dealt with it was writing a lot during downtime at work and trying to limit the online promotion machine to certain days.”

Elizabeth Massie. “My writing certainly wasn’t a plus to my relationship with my ex, and though it wasn’t the primary cause of its downfall, he never understood my need for solitude (which I really didn’t ask for very often; I tried very hard to balance things) in order to write and he often felt resentful. Now, however, I’m in a domestic partnership in which both of us make a living by creative freelancing. I’m a writer. Cortney is an illustrator. We understand each other’s needs for time alone. Our relationship thrives because we have can have our quiet time, our alone time, and then share what we’ve created for input or critiquing.”

Brian Keene. ”Writing cost me two marriages. At least, that’s what I tell myself. In truth, it was really me.

“My first marriage dissolved when I was trying to become a professional writer. We lived in a trailer and had about three dollars to our name. I worked all day in a foundry (and later as a truck driver) and then came home at night, and focused on my word processor, rather than my wife. I was young and dumb and it never occurred to me that my equally young wife might like me to spend some time with her rather than writing. Even when we did spend time together, we didn’t really communicate. She was usually watching TV while I had my nose buried in an issue of Deathrealm, The Horror Show, Cemetery Dance, New Blood, or one of the other big horror lit magazines of the time. When she left, I had that word processor and those horror magazines for comfort, and not much else.

“My second marriage lasted eight years (after an additional eight years of courtship), and dissolved long after I’d become a professional writer. By then, I was old enough and mature enough to have figured out that I should spend time with her and talking to her after putting in 7 or 8 hours at the computer. Despite that, communication was still the culprit in the end. There were things I was unable to properly communicate — the pressure of deadlines; the stress of fame (because even a little bit of fame can be a very fucked thing); how it felt to live under a public microscope that examined and often took issue with everything I wrote, said, thought, or did; the paranoia and self-loathing that creeps in when everyone — even your once closest friends — seem to want something from you; how utterly demoralizing it was to me that I didn’t have a weekly paycheck, health insurance, or a 401K to provide for my family the way every other husband I knew did.

“I should have tried harder to talk about these things, but I didn’t have it in me. I didn’t have it in me because after 8 hours of writing, I was emotionally and mentally exhausted at the end of the day.

“I don’t believe we choose to be writers (or musicians, painters or any other form of the arts). I believe we don’t have a choice. To be given an ultimatum like the one that inspired this Blog — to be told ‘choose me or the writing’ — is no choice at all. I probably could have saved my second marriage by quitting writing and walking away from it, but doing so would have been a lie. Writing isn’t like a sales job where you quit one firm and go to another. I’m a writer. I could no more quit than cut off my arms or voluntarily drag my balls across six miles of broken glass. Believe me, I thought about it. I thought about it long and hard. But in the end, quitting would have destroyed my marriage even more assuredly, because I would have been miserable, unhappy, unsettled, and eventually dead. That’s not hyperbole. That’s a certainty.

“They key is communication. I look back now and shake my head in disbelief that a guy who made his living communicating to the general public was unable to do the same for the people he was closest to in his private life. I’m currently in a relationship with a fellow writer — somebody who has been doing this just as long as I have, and has gone through and experienced all of the same things. And while we both intimately understand each other’s need for everything from solitude to the pressures of deadlines, we still make a concerted effort to communicate when we’re done. Because we both know just how hard it is to be in a relationship with a writer. There really are four of us — me, her, and our muses. It’s important that all four get a chance to talk.”

Both/And, Not Either/Or

This past weekend we watched Into The Wild, the film adaptation of Jon Krakauer’s 1996 nonfiction book on the short, intense life of Christopher McCandless, who, straight out of college, lived as a vagabond before retreating to a Thoreau-like existence in the Alaskan wilderness.

It didn’t end well for him.

Near the end, he writes this in a book: Happiness is not real unless it is shared.

You can certainly debate the truth of that, or the nuances of what McCandless may have actually meant … and people have. It’s interesting to see the different takes.

I don’t believe it, myself. I’ve had, among other spells of solitude, no end of happy times when it’s just me and the words. No writer could tell you otherwise.

But I do believe this: While happiness may be every bit as real when it’s just you, it’s better when it’s shared.

Awesome people share.

You are awesome, aren’t you…?

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How Committed Are You, Really?

by Brian on April 10, 2012

in Inspiration

They found a dead man in the New Mexico wilderness the other day, lying peacefully beside a cool stream. He went out for a run and never came back.

It probably wasn’t news where you live, but where I live in Colorado, it was top-headline material in the Sunday paper. It should’ve been an April Fool’s Day joke, but wasn’t. He was local, sort of, when he wanted to be. His name was Micah True, née Michael Randall Hickman, but a lot of people knew him best as Caballo Blanco, Spanish for White Horse.

I wasn’t one of them — don’t get the wrong idea. I knew of him only through the printed page, a book called Born To Run. I’ve raved about it ever since, as one of the favorite books I read last year, and among the books I got the most good out of.

Without Caballo Blanco, there never would have been a Born To Run. The events at the heart of this wonderful book would never have happened. He was the most indelible of a gaggle of indelibly larger-than-life characters, and probably — and, paradoxically — both the easiest and hardest to understand.

The Cliff’s Notes version: Two decades ago he dropped off the face of the civilized world, retreating to some of the most inhospitable country on earth, bonding with and learning from some of the planet’s most reclusive people, eventually becoming a kind of flesh-and-blood myth. He lived to run and ran to live. He made running the center of his existence. He sought out the people who do it better than anyone. He bridged worlds, with running as a common language.

By the end of the book, I was trying to imagine his future. It was impossible for me to imagine anything other than more of the same. He’s going to die out there — I really did think this, out there being Mexico’s Copper Canyons or someplace almost as remote. It wasn’t an ominous thought, just a nod to what seemed like a logical inevitability. But I certainly wasn’t expecting it to happen within a matter of months.

No, But If You Hum A Few Bars, I’ll Fake It

I began this thinking of Caballo Blanco as one of the most committed individuals I’ve ever heard of, but already I’m squirming away from that. Maybe it wasn’t so much a matter of commitment as it was an honest conviction that there were no other options, at least none worth considering. As presented in Born To Run, he seemed to be a character who recognized his unconventional path with such clarity that he was oblivious to the approval and good opinions of others. Even the people of the Mexican outback thought he was crazy, or maybe not even human.

At first.

He seemed like someone who’d heard his call, and heeded it, and kept heeding it while the rest of the world caught up to him.

And yes, of course that takes commitment. There are always paths of less resistance, and hills that aren’t as steep. But first it takes clear vision, and the willingness to see who and what you really are. It may take courage to accept that, and even more to shrug off the need for the approval and good opinions of others … especially the ones who have a ready-made box for you that they insist is just your size.

After that, well, what else is left but the journey?

I’ve told this before, but today it bears telling again. Pat Fish, proprietress of Tattoo Santa Barbara, who left a mark on me that goes all the way through, once told me how another legend-in-his-own-time, Ray Bradbury, gave her the one critical tool that helped her recognize just the road ahead.

“He came annually to speak to the journalism club at my high school, it was the Ray Bradbury chapter of Quill & Scroll, and he said one year something so profound it changed my whole life: that inside yourself you have an internal gyroscope that hums when it gets near the things you love, and leans you towards them. So if you learn to pay attention to this you never have to do a stupid job, you figure out what you love to do and then make it how you make money.”

All great journeys begin with the sound of a hum.

Which Came First: The Ending Or The Beginning?

I have long tried to live this way — to live as authentically as I can. I heard the hum, the One Great Hum against the background of secondary hums, and there could be no mistaking what it was.

And I take immense joy in the reports of others who say the same. I’ve lost track of the number of people — writers and otherwise — who’ve said that things began really working for them only when they put this singular ambition at the center of their lives. That what made the biggest difference was when they boldly committed their souls.

Yet, for all that, there are times I wish I hadn’t heard the hum. Or that I’d heard a different hum. Or that, while the hum was fine, I’d been more worthy of it. There are times when I wobble and doubt, and maybe listen for another hum that just isn’t there. There are days like that. We all have days like that … don’t we? Then it all comes around again, and something happens that leaves me glad I didn’t hear anything else.

It occurs to me that the most ineffectual times of my life have usually been when I’ve lost sight of this. When I’ve hedged or diluted, when I’ve let the focus blur and the center has not held. The flipside is true as well: that some of the greatest triumphs have come from sticking with something just a little longer than a better pragmatist might’ve taken to give up.

Somewhat notoriously, William Faulkner stated that writers are congenital liars, convinced they “can create much better truth than circumstance can.”

Fine. Lie to the rest of us, lie for the greater good, lie for the sake of a better story…

But don’t lie to yourself. Not about who you are and what you’re here to do, if you’re lucky enough to have seized upon these things.

“Begin with the end in mind” — common advice, but you always hear it small-scale, on a project level. For the sake of argument let’s stretch it out for a lifetime.

Imagine the great end, whether it comes to you in your bed or rush-hour traffic or beside a cool New Mexico stream. Then imagine what comes next. The gatekeeper at the delivery door checks the paperwork from the original order and frowns at what he sees. You know how these clipboard guys are. Everything has to match up just so.

“Are you sure?” he says. “This is you? No, this doesn’t look like you at all.”

Who wants to hear a thing like that? How about this, instead:

“Yeah, yeah, come on in. And put your ID away. I’d know you anywhere…”

It’s a start, anyway.

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Have I done you a disservice lately?

I don’t think so, but when there’s room for doubt, better to dispel the notion.

The point of contention is a line in “How Better Happens,” from a few weeks ago, which looked at some realizations, upon proofing OCR scans of some of my earliest novels, that became apparent only with the passage of time. Specifically, this bit:

“It’s so clear: Things got better. I got better. Mostly as a consequence of not stopping. Not stopping, and an unrelieved sense of dissatisfaction.”

That word, dissatisfaction. The implication that it’s a constant, like each day’s sunrise. Later on, the words humbling and humiliating get thrown in. Hard words, all of them. Welcome to the world.

Since then, I got an e-mail from a reader respectfully wondering if I might not be sending out an unhelpful, even damaging message: that you’re not supposed to take pride in your own work. That getting better means you have to linger in a state of perpetual misery about it. That, like the Greek myth of Tantalus, you must doom yourself to an eternity of reaching for a bunch of succulent grapes you can never touch.

Gee, I hope not. That would mean I’ve squandered an awful lot of gloomy days with a perfectly inappropriate sense of contentment.

“A Foolish Consistency Is The Hobgoblin Of Little Minds” *

Paradoxical creatures, we homo sapiens. But often to our benefit, as F. Scott Fitzgerald latched onto with this observation:

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.”

Like, say, (A) “I’m happy with my work today,” and (B) “I’m not happy with my work in the grand scheme of things.”

The two don’t have to be mutually exclusive.

I’ve never let any piece of writing go out from underneath my roof until I felt that it was the best I could possibly make it. That it was something I would feel proud to have my name on. But my best may be my best only at that particular time.

This inevitably gets tangled up with a longer-term view: recognizing that my best could still be better in the future, and that this lies on the other side of more work, care, and attention to detail.

The only way to reach it is to not get too comfortable, or overly satisfied, with where I am today.

Satisfaction is like aspirin: A little can help, but more isn’t necessarily better, and may even make things worse. Too much self-satisfaction may lead to smugness at best; at worst, outright hubris. If you want an unforgettable depiction of the consequences of hubris, it doesn’t get much starker than Into Thin Air, Jon Krakauer’s account of a notoriously ill-fated attempt at summiting Mount Everest in 1996.

I love this quote, from one of the commercial expedition leaders:

“We’ve got the big E figured out, we’ve got it totally wired. These days, I’m telling you, we’ve built a yellow brick road to the summit.”

His frozen corpse is still somewhere up on the mountain.

An extreme example? Sure. But people pull the equivalent with their personal and professional lives every day. I’ve done it myself, when I’ve lost sight of having been taught better.

“When I Was 17, It Was A Very Good Year…” **

Not everybody is fortunate enough to be able to pinpoint when and where a principle like this was instilled in them. To the extent anyone is able, I am.

As a high school senior, I had one of my two favorite teachers for College Prep Writing. He also supervised the school literary magazine, whose staff I was on that year. Mr. Quinn, his name. We already knew each other pretty well by that point. TQ, some of us called him.

For our assigned papers, TQ’s grading schema had two scores: one for content, the other for presentation. What you said, and how well you said it. A perfect score was 100/100.

Except I seemed unable to ever wriggle past 96/96. Sometimes a gut-churning 94 crept into the mix. What does it take to get 100 out of this guy, I would think, and go into each new assignment determined to make this one the one that pushed my grade to the top.

It never happened. Solid A’s, but never that perfect score. Not once. It wasn’t like Harry Potter’s world, where Dumbledore gives you the winning points just because he likes you.

Only during the last few days of my senior year did I find out what was actually going on, from my friend Leslie, that year’s lit-mag editor-in-chief. She’d been privy to the master plan for some time.

TQ was never going to give me 100, Leslie told me. He’d apparently decided this early. I could turn in the finest work he’d ever seen, and he was still never going to grade it higher than 96.

Because TQ saw something, and didn’t want me to stop striving to do better. He didn’t want me to feel complacent. Didn’t want me feeling entitled to coast.

So I never got 100 on some paper whose content I would’ve forgotten in a few months? Big deal. Instead, I came out of TQ’s class with something that could carry into the rest of my life. It was one of the best lessons I never remotely realized I was learning.

Now that’s a teacher.

“All Anyone Asks For Is A Chance To Work With Pride” ***

By all means, take pride in your work. If we’ve done our best, we should. We should love it for what it is, and maybe, sometimes, in spite of what it isn’t … yet.

But our best is only a snapshot in time. A single way station along a winding path or an uphill climb.

Can you truly say you love your work if you’re willing to let it take a breather halfway along the journey … and then stay there?

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* Ralph Waldo Emerson ** Frank Sinatra  *** W. Edwards Deming

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Logic: Without It, Your Story May Have A Serious Neurological Disorder

March 9, 2012

[Cross-post with Storytellers Unplugged] Even though life doesn’t always seem to proceed with anything resembling logic, fiction generally has to. If it doesn’t, the wires start to show, and it becomes obvious that you’re just making it up as you go along. Which you are, totally … except most readers and viewers aren’t keen on [...]

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The 3 Words That Forever Changed The Way I Write

February 29, 2012

It was the greatest three-word lesson on the craft of fiction that I’ve ever received. Not that there’s much competition. I can’t think of much that I’ve picked up over the years that could so thoroughly be boiled down to three succinct words. The time and place: a year after college, when all I had [...]

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Steal A Trick From Hollywood To Plan Your Next Novel

February 17, 2012

The early planning stages of any long writing project are usually when you feel the most wobbly about the whole thing. Novels, of course, but even novellas and novelettes can feel like going off-path into the deep unknown. Sure, you can wing it, or feel your way blind the whole time, but most people seem [...]

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How Better Happens

February 9, 2012

[Cross-post with Storytellers Unplugged] This is for the ones who despair. This is for the ones gripped by the feeling that it will never get better. That they will never get better. I promise you this much: It can. And you might. That’s the best guarantee you’re going to get. Can and might. There’s only [...]

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Rock Your Writing This Year With The 30-Things Challenge

February 2, 2012

We’re a month into 2012 and I’m coming out of January with the kind of momentum I haven’t felt in years. I hope you can say the same. A number of projects have either wrapped up or are heading that way, while others continue to gel, unfold, and germinate. It’s a good feeling, one I [...]

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The 5 Most Useful Books I Read In 2011

January 11, 2012

January is the time to limber up your neck and swivel your head, looking both backward and forward. It wasn’t for no reason that the Romans named it for Janus, the god with two faces, who could manage this bi-directional perspective without risking whiplash. Today’s post and the next will follow Janus’ example, and it [...]

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A Fine Line Between Polish And Overkill: The First-Draft-To-Last Postscript

January 5, 2012

And you thought it was all over, along with Christmas, New Year’s, and Festivus’ dreaded “Airing of Grievances.” As the four-part “From The First Draft To The Last” series was winding to a close, reader Turenn, whose request kicked it all off in the first place, came back with a follow-up: “Is there another danger, [...]

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From The First Draft To The Last, Part 4

December 21, 2011

As we finally bring this behemoth in for a landing, I’m reminded of the old saying: “Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.” What started as a request for a single post turned into … well, you can see how things mushroomed. Thanks again to Turenn for suggesting the topic. Be [...]

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From The First Draft To The Last, Part 3

December 13, 2011

Our journey until now… In Part 1, we started big and clumsy, with birthing a misshapen blob of story and getting its core parts in order. Part 2 covered the administrative tasks of internal logic, and the art of language and rhythm. Now we get into the skills that you can spend a lifetime refining. [...]

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From The First Draft To The Last, Part 2

December 7, 2011

First the bad news: If you thought we were going to be able to wind up this reader-request post today, it looks like we were both mistaken. The good news? Well, I should hope that the prospect of a Part 3 doesn’t make you peevish. To recap, Part 1 looked at the process of simply [...]

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